I can’t hear you!
Since the COVID-19 pandemic has required me to wear a mask in public, I have learned something: I cannot hear, see, or communicate well while wearing a mask. In fact, I’ve decided masks totally interfere with my brainpower. It’s weird!
It’s terrible. No, it’s not as terrible as getting sick, but dang it…it seems all my senses are failing while I’m wearing a mask! Add in the fact that it’s hot inside that mask, and my glasses steam up, and it hardly becomes worth it to leave my house. I also feel like the maskless people are thinking I’m judging them when I’m not. No, I’m not. Y’all go ahead and judge everybody else all you want, but I’m just not that person. I know someone who actually confronted people who weren’t wearing masks in the grocery store recently. Nope. Not gonna do it. Personally, I think she is more in danger of getting beaten up in the parking lot than she is of catching COVID, but whatever.
But back to the real topic: how masks impair our communication skills. Like I said, I can’t hear while wearing a mask. I know my hearing is not as good as it should be anyway, but it’s worse with a mask. Maybe I have some mad lip-reading skills that I just can’t use while others are wearing masks. Maybe it’s the claustrophobia I feel behind the mask. Maybe the mask is decreasing oxygen to my brain! Maybe it makes me feel like I’m disconnected. It really does do that, for sure. People can’t read my facial expressions, and I’m accustomed to smiling at folks all the time. I can smile all I want now, but no one is going to see it. A smile, in my opinion, is the same as a space alien saying, “We come in peace.” But if we can’t see each other’s smiles, we all look a little hostile. Sure, resting b***h fave doesn’t show either, but frankly, I think everyone looks like they have RBF under a mask.
Normally, when I’m in public, I might strike up a conversation with the person standing in line in front of me or behind me. Lots of times, I’ve stuck up conversations with folks and discovered we had people in common…even in faraway places! I was in Tennessee a few years ago, and when I started talking with the lady in front of me in line at a tourist attraction, I learned she was from Panama City, Florida. She told me she worked for a dentist, and I mentioned that my aunt worked for a children’s home in the area. The lady then told me she the dentist she worked for did a lot of work with the children’s home. I called my aunt, who told me that yes, she knew the dentist…but she didn’t just know him from there. She had gone to high school with him!
That’s what I miss…those impromptu conversations with new people. The masks are taking that kind of fun away from me. Yes, they might be saving us from spreading the virus, but they’re taking away some of the fun of life. Communication is just a little more difficult.
I know, I know. Masks are likely going to be a way of life for the foreseeable future. I’m just going to have to get accustomed to it. But that does not mean I have to like it. I miss making new friends in Target. I miss making connections. I miss smiling at people in public.
I can’t imagine any situation which would hinder your ability to make new friends. You may well be on the short list for “Pearly Gate Greeter”.
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You’re so sweet! Maybe it’s the mask decreasing oxygen to my brain! I just don’t function well with it!
As someone with severe hearing loss (60% left ear, 40% right ear last time I checked back in 2006), I need to see a person’s lips if they are soft-spoken. I am soft-spoken. People with decent or severe hearing loss tend to fall into one of three categories – the soft-spoken, those who talk normally (seems to be the smallest of the three groups), and the loud ones. I worked with someone in the third group. As hard of hearing as I am, I would have to hold the phone a foot from my bad ear when he called. I am not exaggerating as I could clearly hear him from that distance on the phone.
I can’t consciously lip read, but my brain is able to sub-consciously translate well enough if I can see your lips when you talk to me. It’s like my brain takes what I hear if you are soft-spoken and fills in the gaps of what I do hear. It does occasionally make mistakes like when I had to ask someone to repeat as my brain interpreted it as “elf steaks” and I knew they weren’t talking about cooking elves.
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I haven’t had my hearing checked in years, but I should. I know I don’t hear well.
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