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by Kelly Mattei

Sorority Rush Shoes

Sorority Rush Shoes

Yes, it’s June, and that means lots of young ladies are preparing for sorority rush. Most big southern schools do rush just before or just after the fall semester starts, and girls need to be well-prepared before they get there.

As you solicit recommendations, purchase rush dresses, fill your rush bag, and get prepared to outfit your dorm room, make sure you remember to get good shoes for rush. (Hint: the ones in the featured photo at the top of the article are NOT the shoes you need!) What does that mean? I means you need to have comfortable shoes that look good. No, I don’t mean they have to be “old lady” practical shoes. They need to be pretty shoes you can wear all day without blisters/discomfort.

Obviously, there are different rounds of recruitment and different footwear needs. For the first round or two at big schools, the girls generally wear shorts/skorts with a t-shirt provided by Panhellenic. With that, you can wear comfortable flat sandals or sneakers. Honestly, I recommend clean, fashionable sneakers for those days. You know what’s in style these days. When my daughter participated in recruitment four years ago (how can that be???), it was Alexander McQueen, Golden Goose, etc. I think most of the girls wear Hokas and On Clouds now, but do what’s right for you.

On other days, you’ll want to wear a heel. I do not recommend spiky heels. I recommend block or wedge heel on an open-toe sandal. (Make sure your toes look good!) Here are some from Amazon I recommend, in a variety of price ranges:

FIRST, COMFORTABLE SHOES TO WEAR BETWEEN PARTIES…

Archies Flip Flops. I sincerely cannot promote these enough. These are the best flip flops ever! I’m not even a big flip flop lover, because I feel like they generally are not good for your feet. However, Archies are different! They offer outstanding arch support, and I actually feel great when I wear them! I highly recommend these for wear between parties, to give your feet/legs/back a break from heels. They come in a variety of colors, and they are priced at just $40. Purchase them for everyone in your family, but especially for that daughter who is about the participate in recruitment. Get them here.

AND NOW FOR THE PARTY SHOES:

Stuart Weitzman Nudist Block Sandals. These are a little pricey, but they are the best, most-versatile heeled sandals I have ever owned. I have a pair in the Adobe color and a pair of the gold. I wear the Adobe ones with dresses and jeans. It’s the perfect heel and a clean look. Your daughter could get these shoes and wear them with any dress for recruitment. Highly recommend. Priced at $420.75, they aren’t cheap, but they will be worth every penny, if you can get them without breaking the bank. Purchase here.

Sam Edelman Classic Daniella. For a similar heel with a much better price tag, you can get the Sam Edelman Classic Daniella. To me, a soft gold shoe is a neutral. You can wear it with anything, and it could be worn with almost any dress during recruitment. Or maybe you’d like the white version? It’s perfect for summer. Both colors are priced at $140 (at time of writing), making them a bargain. I have some of the gold ones, and I wear them with dresses and jeans too. They’re comfortable, fashionable, and versatile. Purchase here.

Cole Haan Fisherman Wedge. This is a stylish wedge, but it’s also comfortable. I know, because I have them and love them. Sometimes, wedges can look clunky, but these are more sleek. And no one will know you paid less that $100 for them! Cute with dresses, but also cute with pants after recruitment is over. Cole Haan makes a great product at reasonable prices. Purchase here.

Stuart Weitzman Georgie Espadrille Wedges. It’s no secret that I love Stuart Weitzman, so there’s no surprise that I’m featuring one of their wedges. This one is comfortable and perfect for late summer! Cute with dresses for recruitment and also cute with pants when rush is over. Priced at $380, they’re expensive, but generally speaking, my Stuart Weitzman shoes last forever and are timeless. Purchase here.

Amazon Essential Two Strap Sandal. If you want to keep the price down, Amazon Essentials offers some great products. I do not have these, but they get great reviews, and with a price of $20.25 at time of writing, you can’t beat it. The heel is 2 1/8 inches, so not too high but not too low, and the color is perfect for wearing with various dresses. Purchase here.

You’ll likely notice that all these shoes can be worn with just about anything. While some people like to wear standout shoes during recruitment, a chapter is not going to want you because you wore the most stand-out shoes. In my opinion, it’s best to have a couple pairs of shoes that will work with everything.

Happy Shopping!

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by Kelly Mattei

Your Sorority Recruitment “Rush Bag”

Your sorority recruitment “rush bag.”

I know it’s only June, and most high school graduations haven’t even happened yet. Congratulations to all the 2026 graduates! You’ve finished that big part of life, and now you’re starting something new! Maybe you’re entering the working world. Maybe you’re going to trade/vocational school. Maybe you’re traveling for a while. Maybe you’re going to college. Whatever you’re doing, best of luck to you! If you’re planning to participate in sorority recruitment at a big, southern school, it’s time to start thinking about your “Rush bag.”

What’s a “Rush bag,” you ask? Well, it’s a water-resistant handbag that holds all the necessities for keeping one’s self fresh during a long August day outdoors in any southern state. What kind of bag should you use? What things should go in it? Fear not, for I have answers.

My own daughter rushed at a big, southern school in 2022, and much to her surprise, she used almost every item I put into her rush bag. She thanked me for taking care of business for her.

For the bag itself, I recommend waterproof or, at least, water resistant.

  • Rush bag. If you know a young lady who is graduating from high school and planning to participate in sorority recruitment at a big, southern university, a “rush bag” makes a great gift. She will definitely need one! You’ll want to start with a water-resistant bag with a zipper closure. These bags will be left outside sorority houses on the ground when they go inside, so they don’t need to be fancy bags. I found a perfect one that comes in multiple colors on Amazon for about $27 here. (See photo at bottom of page.) If you opt for that one, I think the medium size is great. If you want to go with a Longchamp-style nylon bag from Amazon…shop here. If you want to add the necessities for recruitment, you can add all of these or some of these items:
    • Handheld, battery-operated fan. It’s hot in the south. The heat and humidity are no joke. She will need a fan. Our daughter used this one last year. And at $7.99 (at time of writing), it’s priced right and comes in a variety of colors.
    • Archies brand flip flops. Your daughter will want some comfortable shoes to wear between parties, and she can slip a pair of Archies right into her bag. These awesome flip flops offer great arch support, and they are designed to absorb shock. They might look like regular flip flops, but I know how much better they are, because I have some! They come in lots of colors, so pick one she likes. Highly recommend! And when rush is over, she can use them as shower shoes or anytime! Purchase for $40 here.
    • Archies brand flip flops. Your daughter will want some comfortable shoes to wear between parties, and she can slip a pair of Archies right into her bag. These awesome flip flops offer great arch support, and they are designed to absorb shock. They might look like regular flip flops, but I know how much better they are, because I have some! They come in lots of colors, so pick one she likes. Highly recommend! And when rush is over, she can use them as shower shoes or anytime! Purchase for $40 here.
    • Waterproof folding changing pad. Sounds crazy, I know, but the girls will be wearing dresses and will need to sit on the ground some during the day. They can save their dresses from grass stains or water spots with this. We got our daughter this one.
    • Blotting papers. All that heat and humidity produces sweat…blot away the shine with blotting papers. Get some from NYX at Amazon for just $6 here.
    • Insulated Water Bottle. They’ll need cold water each day. Pick a water bottle from Amazon here.
    • Hand sanitizer. This is pretty obvious. We purchased our daughter some Purell travel-sized hand sanitizers to use between parties. Get them from Amazon here.
    • Small umbrella. A small folding umbrella is crucial in the south, where thunderstorms can crop up at any time. When I asked my daughter which item she used most from her rush bag, her immediate answer was “the umbrella.” We got a great one at Amazon here.
    • Tissues. These come in handy. You never know when you’ll need a tissue. Get Amazon’s Choice here.
    • Deodorant. This is a more personal item, so you can include it or not. I think it’s nice to include one just as a possibility. Personally, I love Carpe antiperspirant/deodorant, which you can buy here. They have lots of different scents, and I have tried lots of them. For women, my favorite scents are Cashmere, Fresh Powder, and Rose Water. They also offer sweat absorbing lotion for face and hands, and they actually work! I know, because I have tried them! HIGHLY RECOMMEND!
    • Breath Strips. The girls spend a lot of time going to lots of parties, and they are in crowds. They want fresh breath. Sure, they can use mints, but I think breath strips are better, because they dissolve quickly. Get them from Amazon for under $6 here.
    • Portable charger. The girls don’t want their phones to die in the middle of the day, so a portable charger comes in handy. For a small, inexpensive one, click here.
    • Lip gloss or balm. Most people have their own cosmetics they love, but Dior Addict lip products are loved by lots of people! If you don’t want to choose a color, their lip balms, maximizers, and oils come in clear versions too. See them here.
    • Band Aids. I would add some regular Band Aids from here. And some blister Band Aids from here.
    • Snack. Gatorade Recovery Protein Bars are great snacks for those hot days…something to put some pep in their step. It’s a great small snack, because it provides a little protein.My daughter loves these on the go. Get some here.
    • Safety pins. For little emergencies, these come in handy. Get a small packet here.
    • Feminine products. You definitely want to have feminine hygiene products on hand, in case you need them.
    • Painkillers such as Ibuprofen or Acetaminophen. Also, a dose of any regular medications you take.
    • Medication Sorter. If your daughter takes any regular daily medications, a med sorter can be a big help. See the one I recommend here.
    • You can include a notebook and pen, but I feel like most girls take notes on their phones.

In reality, you hope you won’t need to use the items in your rush bag, but you want to be prepared. You don’t want to have to walk around asking people if they have safety pins or Band Aids if you need one, and you definitely don’t want to use someone else’s makeup or deodorant.

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by Kelly Mattei

Love These Flip Flops for Summer

Love these flip flops for summer!

In recent weeks, I started receiving ads on social media for Archies Flip Flops. I ignored them at first, but one day, I listened to the ad and learned that Archies offer arch support, while most flip flops are just flipping and flopping. So I did what I do: I ordered some Archies. I purchased them in tan, because I was only planning to buy one pair, and the tan would work with almost anything.

They have orthotic design for plantar fasciitis relief. Designed by health professionals, these arch support flip flops aid in foot pain relief by supporting your feet’s natural shape. The shock-absorbing material helps reduce stress on joints, making them perfect for walking, travel, beach, and everyday wear.

I received the Archies last week. They were waiting for me when I returned home from a trip. I sat down and slipped on the Archies, and I could feel the difference immediately. In fact, I have worn them a lot over the last few days, and I love them. The arch support makes a world of difference! In fact, they feel so good that I might just wear them all summer! No, I won’t wear them out to nice restaurants or church, but I will wear them instead of sneakers to lots of places.

All this is my long way of saying “buy some Archies”! They are great for men or women, and they are offered in lots of colors. In fact, I’m going to purchase the pink ones today. You can purchase your favorite color for just $40 here.

by Kelly Mattei

What Are Your Talents?

What are your talents?

I saw a video recently that Reese Witherspoon posted. She said she had just gotten off the phone with a young lady who had called her for career advice. When Reese asked her what her talents are, the young lady had difficulty answering. Reese’s advice? Don’t chase your dreams; chase your talents. It makes sense. Do something you are good at and enjoy; don’t spin your wheels going after a pie-in-the-sky dream.

I have a daughter who is about to graduate from college, and I sent the video to her. Of course, I can’t say too much to her, because she will just push back, but if she asks me her talents, it will be easy for me to tell her what they are. She would kill me if I put them out there for the universe to read, so I will skip to me.

I’m a 58-year-old empty nester, but Reese made me start thinking about what my own talents are. I’m not gifted in the fine arts. My singing makes ears bleed. My drawing/painting might win a preschool award. I’m not a good runner. I can walk all day long when I don’t have sciatica, but run? Not so much. Those talents are not mine. One thing I know I do better than most people? I remember names and faces really well. Do I remember every single one? No, but I remember most. I have always known it was something I did better than 99 percent of the population, but how do you turn that into income?

Another talent? My daughter and husband likely would not call this a talent, but I am what they refer to as a “yapper.” I can talk to a wall, as they say. I like to talk to people! I like to get their stories! I like to learn about them and where they’re from! (I’m a perpetual learner; is that a talent?) I also like to think I’m approachable, fun, and funny.

I’m now trying to decide how I can turn those talents into income.

But while I think about that, I’m going to share some talents I have observed in others. One really big talent I have seen in some people? Making other people feel special. You know people who can talk to you and make you feel like the only person in the room? That is real talent. I think that is the kind of talent that can carry someone a long way in life. If I were hiring someone for just about any job, I would want to hire someone who can make people feel special. I don’t even know if that is something that can be learned. I think it might be an innate skill…maybe hereditary or passed down through families.

Positivity. Some people would consider that a personality trait, but I think it’s another great talent. I know you’re thinking it’s not a talent, but it is. I have a friend who had not worked in 15 years while she raised her daughter. She had worked for one of the big banks in the credit card division before having a baby. She wanted to get a job after 15 years, and she finally had an interview with a bank. She called me and said, “I know I won’t get this job, but it will be good interview experience.” I said, “They are going to hire you, and I will tell you why. You are happy and always have a positive attitude. Anyone hiring can see that you will be good for office morale, without a doubt.” Was I right? She got the job. Her first interview in 15 years, and she got the job, and I like to think it’s because of her positive outlook! People want to be around her! I call her Miss Merry Sunshine.

There are other, more tangible talents, of course. Some people are good with numbers, while others are good writers. Some people are natural-born salespeople…you know, the ones who can sell ice to an eskimo. There are people who are very detail-oriented; those are the more type-A people of the world, and I admire them, because I’m not one of them. I’m a big picture kind of person. But “big picture” people have a place in the world too and can be very successful in careers that require delegation. Some people can use their physical strengths in construction. Others can use their automobile knowledge in that industry. I know someone whose mental strength/physical strength/love of animals made him perfect for a post-retirement career in animal control. He’s also fearless, so there’s that. Someone who has exceptional boating abilities could run a charter service. Good with children? Become a teacher or coach! Good with animals? Dog training might be in your future. Trendsetter? A career in fashion might be good or even owning a boutique might be a great option!

I know lots of people who have “children” graduating from high school and college soon. This might be a good time to send them Reese Witherspoon’s video. I think her advice is pretty darn solid: find your talents.

See Reese’s video here.

by Kelly Mattei

Favorite Dupe Handbag

My favorite dupe handbag. * I receive commission for items purchased through my Amazon links.*

I have always loved handbags, and I especially love a good dupe. This one is inexpensive and cute, so I love it. It comes in several different colors, and I have four of them. At these prices, if they get messed up, just buy another one! Purchase here. They pair great with some dupe shoes you can purchase here.

by Kelly Mattei

Westmore Beauty Body Coverage Perfector Review

Two words: LOVE IT!

I tried the Westmore Beauty Body Coverage Perfector today on my shins and on my arms. Actually, on just one shin, because I wanted to see the difference. I love it! When my 21-yr-old daughter came in this afternoon, I asked her which leg looked better, and she immediately pointed to the one with the Westmore Beauty Body Coverage Perfector!

At 58, I have those little white spot on my legs…the ones where the pigment seems to have magically vanished. It makes for a much less smooth appearance. The leg with the perfector looks much better than the other.

To test it, I applied it before going outside in 98° heat to water my plants. Then I got in the pool. When I got out…the Perfector was still on the leg! Y’all, I love this stuff. The tube I have is 3.5 ounces, but I just ordered the 7-oz tube from Amazon.

Highly recommend! Order it here.

Also, here are pics of my legs…one outdoors and one indoors. You can see the difference. Is it perfect? No, but I only applied a very light coat. Might do more tomorrow. Yes, the leg on the right in each pic is the “perfected” one.

by Kelly Mattei

My Favorite Everyday Jewelry

My favorite everyday jewelry. *As an Amazon Associate, I receive commission on items purchased through my links.*

I’m giving away some real secrets today!

This past weekend, I met a few friends from college for a weekend full of laughs, memories, drinks, food, and new memories! It’s always fun to get together with people I have known most of my life. I’m very fortunate to have maintained friendships with people I met in college 40 years ago. Did I mention we laugh a lot when we get together?!? Well, we do.

When I travel, whether I’m meeting friends for lunch or traveling, I like to keep the jewelry simple. That doesn’t mean I don’t wear pieces I love. I just like to have some things that will work with anything I wear, so I don’t have to take as much. Also, I find those same pieces are my “fall back” pieces when I’m in a hurry to get somewhere in Charlotte or when I can’t make a decision.

The best thing about them? They’re inexpensive! If I leave them behind somewhere, it’s no disaster. I also get lots of compliments on them. For those reasons and lots more, I highly recommend these pieces:

  • Earrings. Trendy CZ Gold Hoop Earrings for Women. These earrings come in lots of colors, but my favorites for traveling are the multicolor ones, simply for ease. They match everything. They’re not too big but not too small, and I receive countless compliments on them. Best of all? They are only $13.99! I have several pairs of the multicolor ones, and I also have them in pink, green, and blue. ***Also great earrings for sorority rush if you’re still wondering what to take/send/wear!***Purchase here.

  • Necklace. Again, a piece I receive countless compliments on, and again, inexpensive…only $7.99! It’s big enough to be noticed, but not big enough to be the only thing people see. Purchase here.

  • Bangle Bracelets. A trio of bangle bracelets for about $20. Sure, they’re costume jewelry, but they fill a need and dress up an ensemble! Get them here.

There you have it. Some of my best-kept secrets…divulged. Purchase while supplies last!

by Kelly Mattei

Free Amazon Kindle Books

Free Amazon Kindle Books

Did you know Amazon offers FREE Kindle books? Well, they do, and you can download them to your Kindle or your Kindle app easily with your Prime Membership! Yes, I said FREE! And some of them were written by popular authors like Nora Roberts. One I can definitely recommend is Year One by Roberts. Get it here. Other titles are offered at low prices. If you have a voracious reader in your family and don’t want to go broke, this is a great way to get some new titles! To see the free and inexpensive offerings on Amazon, click here.

If you’d like to purchase an Amazon Kindle reader, check them out here.

But if you have a sports fan in your family who can hardly wait for college football to start, I highly recommend The System: The Glory and Scandal of Big-Time College Football. It’s not free or even almost free, but it’s the best book about college football I’ve ever read. Get it here.

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by Kelly Mattei

Need Extra Cooling?

Need extra cooling?

I like it cool when I sleep, and I like it cool when I’m getting ready to go out. Do I need the rest of my family to freeze? No. Maybe you have a college student who prefers cooler air than a roommate?

I have a portable personal air conditioner that I used on my bathroom vanity when getting ready, and I even carried it to hotels in my luggage. I paid $100+ for it some time ago, and I thought it worked great…UNTIL I found Arctic Air. Yes, it’s “as seen on TV,” and it really works. The best part? It’s only $39.98 at Amazon, and I have found it works better than my more expensive portable personal a/c! It’s also small enough to fit easily into a carry-on bag! I just put it right on the hotel nightstand at night, and when I’m getting dressed for the day, I move it to the bathroom vanity…just add water and/or ice and plug it in!

If you like to have cool air blowing on you at night or while you’re getting ready, this won’t cool a whole room, but it will blow directly on you, keeping you cool. Or maybe you have someone on your holiday or birthday list that could use it! I love it and highly recommend it!

Get it at Amazon here.

*As an Amazon Associate, we receive commission for items purchased through our links.*

by Kelly Mattei

Amazon Prime Day Deals for Sorority Rush

Participating in sorority recruitment in the south this fall? Let’s get ready! Here are some deals from Amazon Prime Days that can help you during sorority “rush.”

  • Rush Bag. You’re going to need a bag to carry all your necessities on those hot days. And it’s hot in the south. I highly recommend a nylon bag with a zippered closure to keep your things dry during those inevitable afternoon showers. Get a great Prime Days deal here. It comes in seven colors, so pick one that’s probably easy to find when there’s a sea of bags. I highly recommend putting a luggage tag on it and maybe even an AirTag. I’ll provide links to both below.

  • Apple AirTags. Surely you’re familiar with the concept. Put an Apple AirTag in your bag so you can locate it with your iPhone’s “Find My” app. We have them in all our suitcases, and I have one in my wallet. I need to put one in my daughter’s wallet. I highly recommend you do the same for your college-age kids. Get a 4-pack of AirTags here. Personally, I would add AirTag holders. There’s a Prime Days Deal for that. Get four multicolored ones here. For my daughter’s keys, I got the Otterbox Rugged Airtag holder keychain. Purchase here.

  • Portable Charger. Because your daughter could be out and about all day, make sure she has a portable charger for her phone! Get a Prime Day deal on a great one at Amazon here.
  • Luggage Tag. You don’t need something fancy, but something bright-colored can help her find her rush bag when it’s in a pile. She definitely NEEDS a luggage tag to ID her bag. I highly recommend a colorful, inexpensive 10-pack, so she has extras to put on her real luggage, her school backpack, and more. Purchase here.

  • Mini Travel Umbrella. In the south, it can rain at any given time. Your daughter needs an umbrella that will fit in her Rush bag. I think her freshman roommate’s parents thought I was crazy when I gave the girls umbrellas, but they literally used them every day during rush.There are lots to choose from on Amazon. Get one with great reviews here.

  • Rechargeable Mini Fan. While this is not a Prime Days Deal, it’s inexpensive anyway. This is the one my daughter used. And it’s necessary on those sweltering August days in the south. Save your daughter some agony during recruitment. Get her a fan here.

  • Sharpies. They need to write their names on everything they own when they go to college, and all these things in their rush bags are not exceptions. You can check out the assortment of Sharpie products on Amazon here.

  • Comfy Shoes. Because recruitment goes on and on for days, the girls need to wear some comfortable shoes or slippers when they walk to and from the houses and between parties. They do not wear these into the parties. I recommend some comfortable flip-flops or slipper-type shoes. See some great ones here. Crocs also offers a wide variety of slip-on comfy shoes here.

  • Waterproof Changing Pad. Sounds silly, I know, but if they have to sit on the wet ground, they’ll thank you. Get one here.
  • Insulated Water Cup that closes securely. I know these girls love their Stanley and Yeti cups. If you need to purchase one, there’s a Stanley you can get with a Prime Day Deal here. There are lots of colors offered, but I could only find the one color on the deal. Yeti has one here.

What else will they need for their rush bags? You can see a previous post with links we made about it here. If you just want a quick list of the other things, here you go:

  • Hand sanitizer
  • Deodorant
  • Tissues
  • Breath Strips (no gum…nothing is uglier than someone chomping gum during a rush party)
  • Band Aids
  • Lip Gloss or balm
  • Blotting Papers
  • Small snacks
  • Safety pins
  • Feminine products
  • Painkillers like acetaminophen and ibuprofen and dose(s) of any necessary medications.

If you’d like to see previous posts we’ve made about sorority recruitment in the south, click here.

*Please share this information with anyone you know who is participating in sorority recruitment in the south! And feel free to send us a message if you have any questions about any of the above or anything else!

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